Ever heard of nihilism? I’m pretty sure that a lot of people would be able to resonate with this philosophical viewpoint. There are multiple forms of nihilism but the most common is the belief that life and the events in life are meaningless. Now, this is a dangerous state of mind if you ask me. The sad reality is that most people of our generation adopted this mindset without even realizing it. Most people can’t even give you an answer when you ask them what the meaning of life could be. I get it though, I adopted this mindset in the past but I’m glad that I got rid of it. You see life is a series of events which can be positive or negative. But you’re in charge how you react to them and how you deal with them.
Some people just have a negative mindset so they lose faith over time. Life really is meaningless according to those people. They just have a wrong view on religion and philosophy altogether. They don’t get it and that’s why they reject it.
Have you ever spend some time in silence or in solitude? Maybe you’ve even spent time in both together. Most people would avoid this like the plague but there’s actually a benefit to both of them. You see we’re conditioned to have a negative feeling towards solitude and even silence if you think about it. Parents punish their kids by putting them in solitude which leads to this behavior. But being alone from time to time isn’t that bad. It’s actually something that might improve your life big time. You’re just not aware of it. Well not yet. I’m here to tell you about it of course. Remember that I told you that you should forget about the looks and read some books? Well, now we’re going to add some extra things that’ll improve your life drastically. This combination is freaking dynamite.
A positive mindset and a lot of fun
People who know me well know that I smile a lot. They never see me angry or depressed. Well not anymore if I’m completely honest. I’ve got a positive mindset now. Some people asked me how I do it since most people assume that adults don’t smile a lot. That’s just pure bullshit if you ask me. There are just a lot of miserable people who can’t seem to smile at all. I don’t see a reason to be like that. I mean you can choose to be either positive or negative but most people don’t realize that. It’s all about challenging your own beliefs. Well, that and being realistic of course. Most people aren’t realistic at all. The slightest setback will turn them into complete assholes.
This might come across as a shocker but I’m not positive 100% of the time. That’ just impossible. But I can live with that imperfection. I’m no stranger to negative feelings just like most people.
Just read my post about pain, you’ll see that it’s not all sunshine and rainbows. But I was able to create a positive mindset most of the time. Really the majority of the time to be honest.
Are you problem solving, purpose finding or trying to escape reality? That’s a hard question, right? I mean I’m basically forcing you to take a look at how you react to certain things in life. I’m pretty sure that some people will leave the blog right here. They’ll be like “I’m not escaping reality, I’m just unlucky”. You’re screwed if you’ve got an attitude like that kiddo. You’re acting like a victim and that’s why you’re fucked. This mindset will make sure that you’re in a lot of pain and yes it’s all your own fault. Now I’m going to start this blog off with a personal experience that learned me a valuable lesson. Let’s take a trip back in time. Let’s go back to the beginning of this year.
Your self-worth shouldn’t be bound to anything and I’m here to explain you why. You see a lot of people’s whole identity is bound to things or sports or sometimes even other people (things like being popular). You might know someone like that and I’m pretty sure that we’ve all been a victim of it. I know at least that I’ve been a victim of it. That’s just me being honest though. Most people don’t realize it until it’s too late. They suddenly fall into a deep dark hole and it’s hard to get out. I have experience with that as well. Your whole world can fall apart at that very instant. You’ll feel empty so it’s best to avoid that.
Let me start this blog with a great question that I got recently: “So Alex, what are you without your fancy blog and your MMA?”
Setbacks reveal people’s true colors. What’s this about you ask? Well, most people can be all sunshine and rainbows when life is going great but what happens when they face one or multiple setbacks? You should always take a good look at how people react to those things. I recently faced a lot of those. I just failed and kept on failing but I know how to handle failure. There had to be a lesson in all of this and you can be damn sure that I found that lesson every single time. But most people turn bitter when stuff doesn’t go as they had planned it. They don’t turn their pain into fuel. They just turn it into more pain. To those people, I have one simple message: welcome to life. You’re acting like a victim and you’re bitching about things that you can’t control.
You cannot tailor-make the situations in life but you can tailor-make the attitudes to fit those situations. – Zig Ziglar
There’s a second book coming… and a third. Pretty cool isn’t it? I made one of my childhood dreams come true by doing this (buy it here). I was looking for a new challenge after that and I found one again after I opened Pandora’s box in my body. So I really had to redefine my purpose in life after that. Don’t worry, I’ll cover this matter on Tuesday. It’s all about purpose finding instead of problem-solving.
So why a second and a third you ask? Well because one equals none, two isn’t good enough for you and three equals happy me. I have no clue what’ll happen after the third one, to be honest, but I’ve got some work so I’ll figure something out by that time. But now I’m going to give you a short introduction to the second book.
Social media is killing your happiness and your self-esteem. How about that? I’m not big on social media, to be honest. I even avoid it most of the times, I barely even text. Sure I’ve got Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, and Twitter but I have those things to support this blog. Most people spend hours on social media and they seem to like it. But do they really? They’re wasting a lot of precious time that could be invested in other more useful stuff. I’m pretty sure that it’s an unfulfilled life. But who am I to judge? You can do whatever you want. I’m just here to share my perspective. It’s up to you to love or hate it. So social media is killing your self- esteem, happiness and even your relationship?! Let’s find out.
People call me an early bird just because I get up at 6 am every single day. Yes, even during the weekends. Those are the days that you need to get up early because you’ve got so much time to accomplish things. That’s the only time when you’re able to really crush your goals. I still remember how I got into getting up earlier. I got a lot of great advice from a YouTube channel called Brandon Carter. he’s also the one who got me into reading. One thing that I noticed was that he got up pretty early (I couldn’t find the video). Later on, I realized that a lot of successful people get up early in the morning. So I decided to do it as well.
Are you feeling sad and lonely on Valentine’s day? Man, that must be a bummer but I’m not a part of that group and yes I’m single and I’m single for a long time. It must be 4 years now. I had this problem as well in the past but then I realized that I was the one who created it. So I solved it off course but that’s what most people don’t do. They can’t be alone and that’s the start of a lot of problems. There’s another big problem and that’s that their ego can’t handle the fact that they’re alone. They don’t get that they’re single.
Let me put it this way: ego is the anesthesia that deadens the pain of stupidity. You won’t get a lot out of life if you’ve got a giant ego. Anyway, let’s take a look at Valentine’s day and why it shouldn’t affect your mood.