You’ll have to take responsibility at some point in your life. Sounds logical doesn’t it but many people avoid it like the plague. I’m not going to write an introduction this time. I’m going to share a story back from the 1700s (I think) which lead to this blog.
I called on Dr. Johnson one morning, when Mrs. Williams, the blind lady, was conversing with him. She was telling him where she had dined the day before. “There were several gentlemen there,” said she, “and when some of them came to the tea-table, I found that there had been a good deal of hard drinking.” She closed this observation with a common and trite moral reflection; which, indeed, is very ill-founded, and does great injustice to animals — “I wonder what pleasure men can take in making beasts of themselves.” “I wonder, Madam,” replied the Doctor, “that you have not the penetration to see the strong inducement to this excess; for he who makes a beast of himself gets rid of the pain of being a man.”
- Anecdotes of the Revd. Percival Stockdale; collected in “Johnsonian Miscellanies
You’ll have to take responsibility at some point.
Just take a brief look at the last sentence and think about it. Doesn’t it remind you of something? for he who makes a beast of himself gets rid of the pain of being a man. Even then men were already doing things to avoid their responsibilities and women were already judging it (I’ve seen women do this). This takes us to the key difference between a boy and a man. A man takes responsibility while a boy doesn’t. Being a man isn’t easy, certainly not in this day and age. More men are struggling to find themselves so they never take the step to responsibility. Society just doesn’t like real men and that’s a fact. So men are afraid to step up because they get taken down just as quickly.
Sounds great but what do you mean with “take responsibility”?
Well, you should take care of yourself first because you shouldn’t be happy with who you are. There’s always room for improvement. You can’t take care of someone else if you can’t take care of yourself so that’s the task at hand. Make sure that you’re in shape and this doesn’t necessarily mean that you should look like Arnold Schwarzenegger. Just do some sport and you’ll look fit. Start reading, listen to podcasts. You can be in the best shape of your life, it means absolutely nothing if you never train your brain. It’s the most neglected part of this day and age.
But that’s just the beginning. After that, it’s time to figure out what you want. Start questioning your beliefs. Do you want to be wasted every weekend, score tons of girls, eat fast food all the time, never read, look porn all day in the basement and so on? This might sound hard but your 30’s will suck if you don’t take care of yourself in your 20’s. The longer you wait to take responsibility, the harder it gets.
Putting responsibility aside…
So it gets harder the longer you wait but why? Because you’ll get more and more responsibilities the older you get. Suddenly you’re married, have kids and so on. How can you raise kids if you’re still a kid yourself? I’m not telling you that you can’t enjoy life, I’m just telling you to take up your responsibilities. Let me give you an example that might help you understand. The example is one that clashes with my norms and values. So some guys get into a relationship and keep on flirting with other women while they’re clearly in a relationship. They even do it while they’re living together or have children. That’s how some men get away from their responsibilities. They let the beast out but they get addicted to it. Those people are then the ones who buy the ex-girlfriend flowers when the relationships end because they got exposed.
But I get it. Relationships are hard and it easy to assume that the grass is always greener on the other side (it never is). You just have to tackle the problems that come your way and solve them together.
But… the responsibility issue.
You also have to take responsibility when you face failures. It’s a hard thing to do because our ego doesn’t always allow us to do it. A lot of people want to portray themselves as perfect, which is ridiculous, and that’s why they’re not able to grow. These so-called perfect people can’t take responsibility because they assume that they don’t make mistakes. They constantly blame other people and they might be delusional enough to believe this kind of reasoning but they just kill their potential.
So swallow your pride and learn to take responsibility.
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