Do you want to live a happy and healthy life? Most people want to live a life just like that but most people aren’t able to do it. The reality is that I shouldn’t even devote a blog post to it since we all know the answer on how to do it. Just ask several people on how you should live a happy and healthy life. They’ll almost all tell you the same stuff. We all know it but most of us don’t do it. It’s strange isn’t it? That we’re smart enough to figure it out but ignorant when it comes to our actions. We as people tend to make up excuses for why we can’t do something. That’s extremely dangerous since you’re killing your own potential.
You’re shooting yourself in the foot and you don’t even realize it. I hate to break it to you but you are your own worst opponent. It’s all up to you. So you’re the one to blame if you can’t live a happy and healthy life. You and no one else. But don’t worry this blog post might help you get back on track. It’s never too late to change. It’ll just take time, effort and perseverance. All the things that make you uncomfortable as a human being.
Today we’re going to talk about your ex or exes whatever. I don’t care about other people’s love lives to be honest. I hope that they’re doing fine but I hate it when they start to brag or complain about their (past) relations. But I even hate it even more when they start to ask questions like: should I get back together with my ex. It’s like somebody has punched all the sense out of some people. Or they killed their brain cells because they’ve indulged too much alcohol. Seriously some people act like toddlers but they’re trapped in a grown up body. I seriously started to wonder if they would stop nagging if I’d give them a pacifier. Anyway I’m going to solve this issue once and for all.
So let me tell you how it’s going to go down. I’m going to tell you the truth and you won’t like it. You’ll be mad at me and even hate me but that’s okay. Just create a Facebook page where people can hate on me. Don’t forget to invite as much people as possible. Just make sure that you link to my blog. I would hate to miss an opportunity to promote my blog. Now that’s what I call the subtle art of not giving a flying fuck.
You probably think that I’m mad when I tell you that you should face struggle. Struggle isn’t that bad, it makes or breaks you. It all depends on how you deal with your adversity and if you ever learn anything from it. Do you think that a real man always gets lucky when he dates? The answer is simple: NO. There are some things you just can’t control and dating is the perfect example. People like to nag and complain when life gets a bit tougher. We’re all becoming spineless pussies that accept whatever comes around. We just let the problems keep on coming but we won’t learn anything if we don’t take action. You can’t sit down and watch life go by.
Are you the hero of your own movie? Wait what? I mean are you living the live that you’ve always imagined living? It’s easy if you have no clue on what you want in life. You can’t be disappointed if you haven’t got a goal in life. But would the hero of your own movie do nothing? Would the hero be someone who stays in bed all day? Would it be someone who doesn’t kick start his/her day the right way? I guess that we can conclude that the answer is no?!
Be curious not judgmental. It’s a simple quote by Walt Whitman but so many people don’t seem to get it. They’re part of the herd and the herd is pretty judgmental. Those people are the so called experts and can’t see the world from another perspective. Oh the “normal people” entertain me every time they speak or share their expertise. Those people wouldn’t even get the real meaning behind this quote. It means that you should be open minded instead of close minded. Still so many people are the latter. Let’s see how this can wreck your whole life and sometimes the life of others.
Have you noticed that almost all the modern day relationships are the same? There are some exceptions but a lot of people are still in a toxic relationship. The worst part is that they all assume that it’s normal. It’s a delusional way of thinking but it exists. Those people tend to give advice to others and it mostly doesn’t make any sense. The best worst advice that I’ve ever had was this: “you only know if you’re in a good relationship if you’re fighting/arguing all the time.” I responded that I didn’t want a good relationship if that was an indicator of the quality of the relation. I seriously even wonder how you can believe such a quote. That doesn’t sound right does it? But then it struck me. I suddenly realized where this misconception came from.
The nice guy will always finish last. This is a saying that so many guys don’t seem to get. They don’t know how to act these days so they act like a nice guy or the wannabe tough guy. Those guys want to be liked by everybody but they don’t realize that this behavior has a completely opposite effect. Those guys really finish last due to their own actions. People will walk over them and they’ll have no clue on why it happened. Those guys crumble when a girl tells them that they’re “such a nice guy”. You know what this means right? You’ve just entered the friend zone once again my friend. You’re just one of the guys. Good luck getting out of that situation. Spoiler alert: you won’t.
The subtle art of not giving a fuck is a book that has been written by Mark Manson (buy it here). Famous people like Chris Hemsworth (on his Instagram), Brandon Carter (popular YouTuber) …. recommend this book. The problem is that it’s easy to tell others to not give a fuck. Most people even admire people who’re able to do it but they can’t do it themselves. It’s actually not that hard to be honest. You just have to realize the mindset behind it. Now I already devoted a blog post about it but I needed to write a second one (read the first one here). I came to this conclusion while I was researching about Stoicism and found a blog post about this subject.
This may come as a shocker to you but being busy doesn’t equal a successful lifestyle. Most people assume that the busiest people are the most successful but those people get nothing done. You can watch television all day but that doesn’t mean that you’re going to get anything done. Most people use the “I’m too busy” excuse way too often in my opinion. You have to read between the lines when it comes to this one. Those people just don’t consider it as a priority but use the no time excuse to cancel on you or other things.
Are you using your phone way too much? It’s possible since most people are social media zombies. I’m the lucky guy who has friends who don’t use their phone so much. I even have a friend who recently deleted her Facebook because she was sick of it. But I have something even more impressive. There’s a guy who takes me to the MMA training sessions and he was recently using an old phone. A phone with buttons instead of a touch screen. So I asked him if he had lost his smart phone. He told me that he had bought that type of phone because he felt that his phone was killing his productivity but there’s more.