Are you problem solving, purpose finding or trying to escape reality? That’s a hard question, right? I mean I’m basically forcing you to take a look at how you react to certain things in life. I’m pretty sure that some people will leave the blog right here. They’ll be like “I’m not escaping reality, I’m just unlucky”. You’re screwed if you’ve got an attitude like that kiddo. You’re acting like a victim and that’s why you’re fucked. This mindset will make sure that you’re in a lot of pain and yes it’s all your own fault. Now I’m going to start this blog off with a personal experience that learned me a valuable lesson. Let’s take a trip back in time. Let’s go back to the beginning of this year.
Your self-worth shouldn’t be bound to anything and I’m here to explain you why. You see a lot of people’s whole identity is bound to things or sports or sometimes even other people (things like being popular). You might know someone like that and I’m pretty sure that we’ve all been a victim of it. I know at least that I’ve been a victim of it. That’s just me being honest though. Most people don’t realize it until it’s too late. They suddenly fall into a deep dark hole and it’s hard to get out. I have experience with that as well. Your whole world can fall apart at that very instant. You’ll feel empty so it’s best to avoid that.
Setbacks reveal people’s true colors. What’s this about you ask? Well, most people can be all sunshine and rainbows when life is going great but what happens when they face one or multiple setbacks? You should always take a good look at how people react to those things. I recently faced a lot of those. I just failed and kept on failing but I know how to handle failure. There had to be a lesson in all of this and you can be damn sure that I found that lesson every single time. But most people turn bitter when stuff doesn’t go as they had planned it. They don’t turn their pain into fuel. They just turn it into more pain. To those people, I have one simple message: welcome to life. You’re acting like a victim and you’re bitching about things that you can’t control.
There’s a second book coming… and a third. Pretty cool isn’t it? I made one of my childhood dreams come true by doing this (buy it here). I was looking for a new challenge after that and I found one again after I opened Pandora’s box in my body. So I really had to redefine my purpose in life after that. Don’t worry, I’ll cover this matter on Tuesday. It’s all about purpose finding instead of problem-solving.
So why a second and a third you ask? Well because one equals none, two isn’t good enough for you and three equals happy me. I have no clue what’ll happen after the third one, to be honest, but I’ve got some work so I’ll figure something out by that time. But now I’m going to give you a short introduction to the second book.
Social media is killing your happiness and your self-esteem. How about that? I’m not big on social media, to be honest. I even avoid it most of the times, I barely even text. Sure I’ve got Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, and Twitter but I have those things to support this blog. Most people spend hours on social media and they seem to like it. But do they really? They’re wasting a lot of precious time that could be invested in other more useful stuff. I’m pretty sure that it’s an unfulfilled life. But who am I to judge? You can do whatever you want. I’m just here to share my perspective. It’s up to you to love or hate it. So social media is killing your self- esteem, happiness and even your relationship?! Let’s find out.
People call me an early bird just because I get up at 6 am every single day. Yes, even during the weekends. Those are the days that you need to get up early because you’ve got so much time to accomplish things. That’s the only time when you’re able to really crush your goals. I still remember how I got into getting up earlier. I got a lot of great advice from a YouTube channel called Brandon Carter. he’s also the one who got me into reading. One thing that I noticed was that he got up pretty early (I couldn’t find the video). Later on, I realized that a lot of successful people get up early in the morning. So I decided to do it as well.
Are you feeling sad and lonely on Valentine’s day? Man, that must be a bummer but I’m not a part of that group and yes I’m single and I’m single for a long time. It must be 4 years now. I had this problem as well in the past but then I realized that I was the one who created it. So I solved it off course but that’s what most people don’t do. They can’t be alone and that’s the start of a lot of problems. There’s another big problem and that’s that their ego can’t handle the fact that they’re alone. They don’t get that they’re single.
Let me put it this way: ego is the anesthesia that deadens the pain of stupidity. You won’t get a lot out of life if you’ve got a giant ego. Anyway, let’s take a look at Valentine’s day and why it shouldn’t affect your mood.
Have you ever tried to use your pain as fuel? You probably haven’t? I suggest you try it but beware that you don’t do it too early. After my break up with my long-term girlfriend about 4 years ago I started doing a pretty intense training schedule. This resulted in the fact that I got a fever attack in the middle of my training. I still managed to finish my training but I was exhausted after that. So read this whole blog before you try anything stupid. Pain can fuel you but it can break you as well. It’s up to you to notice when it will take you down. Hint: it will bring you down if you use something to escape your pain. This can be anything from a workout to a meet up with friends.
Escapism will do you more harm than good and there’s no exception to this rule. Anyway, pain is cruel but you should use it as fuel.
Ever heard of Pandora’s box? It’s a story from Greek mythology where a woman get’s a box as a gift. The woman, who’s called Pandora get’s the instruction to never open it. But she get’s curious and opens it anyway. She released 8 demons into the world by opening that box. Seven are deadly sins and got away but she was able to catch the last one, which was hope. So what does Pandora’s box have to do with my body you ask? Well, I released something in my body that wasn’t fun at all. It took me more than a month to recover from it. I was far from in a happy place but I’d seen worse so I couldn’t complain either. My depression was far worse than this.
I’m going to start an 11-day blogging challenge and I’m going to start tomorrow. It’s something which I came up with this morning well I was enjoying my cup of Joe’s. The idea is to release a blog post every day for a period of 11 days while I still able to live my life. You see writing 11 blog posts isn’t hard. That’s easy. I could just lock myself up, skip every training session for a week and boom I’ve got 11 blog posts in no time. But I’m going to make sure that there’s a balance between the 5 core areas of my life:
- Health: mental, physical, emotional
- Relationships: intimate, family, friends
- Wealth: finances, career, education, business
- Contribution: make an impact on the world
- Spiritual: Connecting to a higher power of your spiritual beliefs.