So you’re going to date again this year? I mean you really should if you’re single. Well, you should and you shouldn’t. Never date the wrong person! Just follow your gut feeling since that’ll help you realize whether you found the right person or not. Most people do the exact opposite. They don’t follow their gut feeling and end up having tons of bad dates. How do I know you ask? Because you wouldn’t be reading this post if you’d followed your gut feeling in the first place. Or you’re just out of a long-term relationship and you’ve got no clue how to date these days. That’s another possibility of course. Don’t worry I’m here to help. 

It’s a date! Did you learn a lesson from your last relationship?

Most people never learn the necessary lessons after a breakup. They’re sore losers and can’t believe that they got dumbed. Most people egos can’t handle a breakup. They say stuff like: “she doesn’t know what she’s missing.” Well, buddy, she isn’t missing anything otherwise she hadn’t dumped you. How about that?! The next thing that you can do is claiming that your ex is completely crazy, which could be possible but it isn’t in most of the cases. You’re together in a relationship so you both made mistakes. Take an honest look at what you did wrong. It’s easy to point out what the other did wrong but now it’s time to focus on you. Focusing on others is the worst thing that you can do.

Learn from your mistakes and make sure that you don’t make them again. That’ll make sure that your new relation doesn’t turn out like the old one. Well assuming that your date likes you of course. Not every date will turn out into a relationship.

It’s a date! Be selfish in a good way.

We all want things in life and some get them and others don’t. The reason why most guys don’t get it is pretty simple. They stop pursuing the goal as soon as they date or have a new girlfriend. They invest all their time in this one girl. So they’re basically chasing girls since they link their self- worth to their relationship status. That’s just foolish. Never quit pursuing your goals! I wouldn’t stop training MMA, writing blogs and reading books when I date again. That would be really stupid. Do what you love and love what you do even when you’re in a relationship. It’s a lot better than sitting silently together on the couch while you’re watching the same movie for the fifth time this month.

That doesn’t sound like the perfect Tuesday night if you ask me. Well, that’s just my opinion of course. Do whatever you want but don’t complain about it when you’re single again. That’s what pussies do!

It’s a date but time is your most valuable asset!

You can’t make time for everybody! People don’t seem to realize this. They want to date everybody who they’re attracted to. This is even more enforced by Tinder. I’m really glad that I stopped using the app. Besides looks aren’t everything. Just date one girl who you really like and keep doing it. Keep going until you either get together or you don’t. I really don’t see the point in dating multiple people. Only people who’ve got way too much time would do a thing like that. Boys (not men) who see girls as a trophy could act like this as well. My time is my most valuable asset you I’m not wasting it. The people who’re wasting time are probably denying the fact that they’re going to die.

It’s a date. Friends tell you more than you realize

It’s always easy if you know your future dates friends beforehand. You can tell a lot about a person by meeting their friends. You are the average of the 5 people whom you spend the most time with. So it’s easy to draw a conclusion. This isn’t always possible of course. In most of the times, it won’t. But I avoided a bad date in this way. That’s why I included it. I didn’t need to date to realize that it wouldn’t match. We had completely different perspectives about life. I’m not the type that parties twice a week. She was, just like her friends, a party animal with no direction in life. I didn’t date her because I knew that she wasn’t going to make me better.

A girl like that would be holding me down.

It’s a date. Learn to walk away.

People can’t walk away from things. It’s okay if you don’t text for one or multiple days. People get caught up in imaginary scenarios when they don’t get a text back the same day. It’s pretty sad and you look pretty dependent as well. I can’t imagine that woman would like this. They’ve got stuff to do as well. They’re not available 24/7 and neither should you. Answer when you’re able to, that’s it.

But I’m also talking about walking away from a relationship. Some people shouldn’t be part of your life so it’s better that you get rid of them before they turn your life into a living hell. It’s a sign that you’re mature but also that you value your time.

That’s it. Enjoy your future date. Here’s a dating tip that might improve your dates in the future.

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